10 Things MTV's Catfish Taught Me

Everything from Internet Smarts to Dating Advice. MTV's Catfish is easily one of my favorite shows. Not because I wholeheartedly believe everything presented on screen is 100% real, but because it's interesting to learn the kind of situations that people can get themselves into when trying to date online. It's pretty funny sometimes as well. And the bromance of Nev and Max is everyone's favourite thing to watch. 

For those of you that haven't seen it, Catfish follows hosts Nev and Max as they try to unite two people that have been speaking to each other online but have never met. Often there is a catch: the person never wants to video chat, their pictures are of someone else, etc. More often than not, one of the two people ends up not being who they said they were and it stirs up a lot of mixed emotions and anger. In essence, be you online. Not someone else. 

I have heard plenty of online dating/relationship horror stories and have watched enough Catfish episodes to say that online dating isn't for me. But there seems to be a widely growing interest in dating and getting yourself out there on the world wide web, so if you're careful and seek out the right people, you could end up successfully finding someone on the internet. Just don't forget the many lessons that have been presented on Catfish when you're out there looking for your special someone. In fact, whether you're dating online or just putting yourself out there in real life, these bits of wisdom can be equally as valuable.
1. Love yourself first
On the show, more often than not a person that is trying to be someone else suffers from low self-esteem, depression, and more. So remember to love yourself before trying to love another person. Love yourself first and everything will fall into place.

2. You cannot trust every person
Nev and Max have revealed a countless amount of people that claim to be one person and end up being another. Just keep a sharp eye when you're talking to or involved with anyone, it doesn't hurt.

3. People are not always who they say they are
Even if the girl you're talking to is really cool and nice. Make sure you know her. Make sure you talk to her a lot and understand where she's coming from. Missing out on any detail could be a bigger deal than you think.

4. If something feels like it's off, it probably is
This can apply to anything. Getting that feeling that something is wrong makes a person either want to act on it or suppress it. Just act on it. You won't regret finding out the truth in the long run.

5. You will most likely never find an attractive rapper that has a lot of money and seeks out random internet women/men to fall in love with
This is Catfish specific. But seriously. Don't get tricked by super off-the-wall circumstances online. Ever.

6. Always take a look at the whole picture
In every situation, it is important to pay attention to every detail. Not just the details that you want to focus on. See the entire picture before making a decision on a person, especially. After all, you aren't going to date a part of a person, you're dating the whole guy/girl.

7. It is okay to be upset when you've been wronged...
People screw up sometimes and it can hurt a person's feelings. And that's okay. On the show, people can get pretty upset when they thought they knew the person they were talking to. And that's perfectly okay. Just don't get violent.

8.  ...But don't forget to get back up
Again, people make mistakes. But that's not your fault, and you always have the opportunity to come out of a situation the bigger person. You might even get a helping hand from a friend.

9. Be you
Don't feel like you need to cover up with what you think people want to see. People will love the real you if you show it to them.

10. You do not have to settle for someone. Ever.
Even if the person you're talking to is super nice and handsome and says all the right things - if you don't feel 100% about him/her, you don't have to be with them. And you sure as heck don't have to feel bad about it.

One thing i take from Catfish is, do all your research, search pictures etc. Basically its just common sense to know whether something doesn't add up or when they aren't being entirely honest. Nev and Max give it point blank, particularly Max - It still surprises me to this day as to why people are still being Catfished, in this modern day in age. 
I'm not gonna lie, Catfish makes me weary of online dating mainly because you just never know who you are talking to whether it could be someone in another city, country or another street 10 blocks from you, they could be using someone elses picture. But ultimately everyone wants companionship and love. And online friendships are beautiful thing to have, i have a lovely set of online friends in the bloggersphere and even in fandoms.

What lesson's have you gotten from Catfish or from another tv series?


A-Z of Me


Ari by Ariana Grande one of my favourite fragrance's of all time, i can't stop wearing it. It smells so lovely and sweet.

Blogging i love my blog and i love blogging. I love discovering different blogs and just reading about everybody & getting to know them more. The blogging community is a lovely thing to part of.

Catfish: The TV Show i'm obsessed with this show, it's so good! And Nev & Max are the cutest co-hosts. They make Catfish and the bromance is adorable. 

Disney  i love Disney but mostly i love the movies because they are so beautifully animated and lets not forget these little gems: Caamp Rock, High School Musical & Lizzie McGuire Movie. What's not to love about Disney? When we think of Disney animation movies, we can easily remember its wonderful soundtracks. Disney is for all generations, by thr time i'm 80 i think i will be sitting in my comfy chair watching Disney movies from the good ol days. Going to Disneyland is definitely on bucket list.

Emoji's i love love love my emojis, like who doesn't?

Family i'm pretty family orientated, i love spending time with my nana and my youngest cousins who always tire me out which their hyper energy. Lets face it i'm probably a young OAP. Spending time with family is important and they keep me sane (and drive me insane)

Good Ol Soak i love my soaks in the bath, with loads of lusious bubbles and gorgeous scents

Hearing Impairment this is probably one that people maybe surprised about because of how well my speech is as i've only got 80-90 percent of hearing also this is something i can get quite self concious about because i can struggle with communicating with many different people, i usually communicate with others by lip reading and of course wearing my hearing aids

iPhone i have the iPhone 6 and it's something i can't leave the house without, it's my comfort blanket & my little baby - how else am i meant to check social media. My phone has everything i need to keep in contact with people.

Jonas Brothers they're are my favourite ever boyband, 13 year old me was in absolute heaven when she saw them in concert. I love my Jonas boys and of course i have to mention Joe Jonas' band DNCE who are just fab!

Kisses & Cuddles from Benson if anything apart from his little quirks, i miss having kisses and cuddles from my beautiful fur baby. He helped me alot with my depression and anxiety, it's not to say i'm fixed but he made everything easier. i miss him tons

London i love walking round london and exploring the city whenever i'm visiting. i definitly can't wait to go in the summer. London is definitely one place i'd like to visit more but as i live in Norfolk it's a bit of a struggle.

Music i like having music in my ears whether i'm traveling, blogging or whatever. Music is comforting, it helps me calm down and relax.

Nicole is my twin sister whom i was born 1 minute before, like many twins we argue like cat and dog but also we are each others best friends.. We are the polar opposites of each other

OTP's okay, i have so many OTP's and for those who don't know what it means, you should be ashamed of yourself. Just Kidding. OTP means One True Pairing. My OTP's are: Jude & Zero (Hit The Floor, Lucas & Peyton (One Tree Hill), Kurt & Blaine (Glee). I have many more but i figured i won't bore you with it. Favourite Fictional Relationships

Paris i think Paris is just beautiful, i've been wanting to go back and see the city since my nana treated us for a weekend in Paris for our 18th

Quotes i love quotes, they always have some sort of meaning or are very relatable

Romance i'm a sucker for romance, well romance in tv shows and movies. I love a beautiful love story. I love love.

Social Media i love twitter, tumblr, pinterest. Social media is where i can connect with people and stay updated.

The Little Mermaid is my favourite disney movie ever followed by Aladdin, Tangled, Beauty & The Beast and Mulan. The soundtrack is lovely and can we talk about how dreamy Prince Eric is!? Growing up Eric was my disney prince crush (and so was Aladdin when i come to think of it)

Unicorns who doesn't love unicorns!? i got pretty excited when the unicorn emoji emerged, it's the cutest emoji ever and my most used emoji

Violet wouldn't it be cool to have violet coloured hair? Purple is my favourite colour, Any shade of purple i like. i love anything with purple

Winter I don't like warm weather, i don't like sweating, I much prefer the colder weather and wearing sweaters, boots and leggings which are my favourite things to wear. Christmas is in Winter... what's not to like? (I love Autumn too)

XOX i like ending most of my messages with an XOX, plus i think its cute

YouTube who doesn't love youtube, its the perfect place to watch your favourite fan videos, youtubers and music videos. If i'm not blogging or scrolling through my social media platforms i'm most liking watching something on youtube

Zodiac I am a Cancer, I was born prematurely on July 11th 1995 named Simone Louise Margett (i'm not too keen on my last name, oh well)


I hope you liked this little A-Z of Me and enjoyed getting to know me a bit more.


My Morning Routine

9 - 9:30 am: I'm not so good at getting up in the morning, I'd much rather stay in my nice warm, cosy bed. Whenever i have a few things to do for the day this would be the earliest I'd get up (actually my mum or sister wakes me up), anytime before that is considered the crack of dawn for me. I usually lay in bed for a bit and check my notifications or see what YouTube videos have gone up, just going over what I've missed while i was asleep. This always helps me wake up! After checking all my notifications, I'll go to the kitchen and make myself a coffee or whatever it is i fancy that day, if I'm feeling peckish in the morning I'll grab a cereal bar, I'm pretty bad at making sure i eat something in the morning. While I'm in the kitchen I'll take my medication with a glass of water. 

10:00 am: After that I'd head back upstairs with my coffee and cereal bar - I'd run myself a bath to help wake me up some more if I'm feeling groggy and have a little soak, wash my hair and body (for my hair i like using Herbal Essence Volume Shampoo & Bee Strong Conditioner and for my body I'd use whatever we have on the side which is usually Imperial Leather Body Wash) 

10:30 am: This is usually the time I'd get myself ready for the day, once I've put my phone down for the 5th time. I'll brush my teeth and wash my face and then once I've decided on my outfit for the day, I'll start prepping my face for make up i.e cleanse and moisturise my skin. Now time for doing my face for the day (this happens if i have meetings, classes or visiting family), while listening to music. I like to keep my makeup routine fairly simple: foundation, concealer, eyeliner, eyeshadow, mascara, lip balm and powder. I soon start packing my bag for the day which includes all my essentials for classes or meetings, whatever it is i have planned that day

11:00 am: Round about this time, if i don't have anywhere to be i start drafting blog posts, reading blog posts, browsing through twitter and tumblr with another cup of coffee or tea of course. Or I'll catch up on things I've recorded such as Catfish (which is my reality-based docu-series obsession) I don't really have a blog routine set to stone, i usually like to blog whenever i gain inspiration and so forth. 

11:30 am: If i have somewhere to be, such as classes or appointments to attend this is the time I'd be getting my things together. Checking i have everything for the 10th time before leaving the house to catch the bus or train (or car on some days if my mums taking me places)

So that's what my morning's tend to look like. This routine is easily the most predictable and similar day-to-day or in my case varies, what does your morning routine look like?


Pins I'm Loving #5

Pinterest (and Twitter & Tumblr) is pretty much one of my favourite things to browse through when boredom hits or when i need some inspiration or an excuse to look at pretty pictures. I like pinning anything from quotes, pretty flatlays, cute animals, to stunning scenery whatever takes my fancy. So here are the latest 'Pins I'm Loving' 

this cute, happy frenchie // this pretty rapunzel art

What pins have you been loving? Don't forget to follow me on pinterest <3

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4 Things You Know If You're Obsessed With 'Catfish'

If you’re anything like me, then you love a good mystery (not the blood chilling kind), and in this modern age, it seems a good amount of our mystery stories have moved online. But that doesn’t mean we have to enjoy them any less, which is why I still find myself watching "Catfish" five seasons later.

The show, which follows Nev Schulman and Max Joseph trying to help people find out if the person they met online is actually who they say they are, is captivating. Even after all these years, I still love watching and waiting for the big reveal to see who the person behind the profile really is. "Catfish" is addictive to watch, and if you’ve seen it, you know why. I've not long ago done 'Why Catfish Is My Guilty Pleasure'

1. You probably know how the episode will end.
The episode endings are hardly a surprise anymore, but they're still fun to watch, even though we all know that the Facebook profiles are fake, and, in the end, the person who did the catfishing will end up telling their heartbreaking story. Nev is sympathetic. Max calls them out on their wrongdoings. Every episode is kind of the same, and yet, they are still so captivating to watch. Partially because we want to know why these people choose to catfish someone and partially because we want to hear the big, blowout confrontation.

2. You love and/or want to meet Nev and Max.
 
The show would be nothing without its hosts. Nev, who’s more sensitive and understanding, having been catfished himself. And Max, who films everything and isn’t afraid to tell the catfishes how it is. They’re the perfect duo, and we love watching their banter and partnership. They're everyone favourite thing about Catfish, who doesn't love Nev and Max!? Who act like an old married couple & have the cutest bromance going. There aren’t too many other hosts who could do as good of a job. Plus, we love to see Nev getting a little less nice, like the time he threw a catfish's phone into a river, or when he wasn’t afraid to yell. They truly make the show, and we’d love to meet them, but hopefully not through the show. 

3. You’ve become smarter about being online.
I think we all already knew that not to accept friend requests from strangers online, but now, we’re a little more conscious of it. Plus, we know the importance of protecting our pictures. Although it’d be fun to have a Skype call with Nev and Max, the thought of someone using our pictures is both somewhat flattering and frightening. Luckily, we’ve been taught some ways to keep ourselves safe.

4. You know all the tricks to catching a catfish.
It is a little unbelievable that people don’t do any kind of investigation if they think they are being catfished. The image searches and phone number lookups seem like an easy enough thing to do, and yet most of the people on this show never think to do it. Nothing Nev and Max do is ever too difficult and seems like common sense. Although I would also forego logic if it meant I got to hang out with Nev and Max.

Catfish wouldn't be Catfish without Nev and Max's detective skills and adorable bromance, it's definitely fun following the guys on their hunt of catching the Catfish.
Do you love Catfish: The TV Show like me - let me know why in the comments!


TV Series I'd Love To See Return To Our Screens

Just earlier i was thinking about the shows i loved watching when they were on air and i thought what a great blog post this could be! P.S this has been in my drafts for a while. By being on our screens i don't mean the repeats but hey who doesn't love having a TV series rerun? I'm a sucker for a cute, well written romance or series, so pretty much anything from Sitcoms to Dramas i enjoy (nothing with blood & gore or horror - i can't stomach those kinds of things, like how can anyone watch those kinds of things without hiding behind a cushion!?) Now, here are the shows I'd love to see back on air and why.


Miranda
This finished airing on our screens in 2015 and i want it back, it ended lovely with Miranda and Gary finally tying the knot. I'm not gonna lie i squealed with joy.
it may not be back on our screens for awhile but hey it doesn't stop us wanting to see our beloved chum, Miranda and her dishy chef husband Gary. Along with the other wonderful characters


The Paradise
This is one period drama i absolutely loved watching on the BBC, and i wasn't a happy bunny when they didn't renew this lovely period drama for a 3rd series. If we saw Moray and Denise's wedding, i think i would've been happy. BBC missed out on having a long running period drama on its channel/network like Call The Midwife (which also pretty good too) 


Brothers & Sisters
One thing that annoyed me was that the show didn't get a proper goodbye/wrap up. I would love to see my favourite couple- Kevin & Scotty with their children a bit more and see Nora Walker have the love she deserves with Beau Bridge's character Brody since they are each others soul mates etc and overall just see this lovely family.


One Tree Hill
In my eyes Lucas and Peyton (and the other main characters) made OTH, Lucas & Peyton are my favourite couple/characters as you can probably tell. I have watched the other OTH series and its good but didn't give me the same feelings as when i was watching the series with Lucas and Peyton present. I think if it were to come back i would like all the original main cast all together again. One Tree Hill was pretty fab with teaching us a few life lessons 

Do you have a series you'd like to see return? 

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5 Things To Remember When You Think You’re Not Good Enough

Sometimes in the midst of all the pressure, I seem to totally forget all the wonderful, unique things about myself. I get stuck in my head and allow my inner critic to completely tear apart my self-esteem until I hate myself too much to do anything except stuffing my face with chocolate and staying in bed all day. While my self-love journey is on-going, here are a few things I try to remember when I’m tempted to be mean to myself:

Everyone compares themselves to other people
If there is one thing all us girls need to stop doing it is comparing ourselves with others. It is probably one of the most hurtful and cruel things we do to ourselves.Everyone does it, even the most confident and successful people you know will compare themselves to the people around them. Instead of comparing yourself to others through a lens of jealousy and judgment, try to look at people for who they actually are without comparing yourself but more as an inspiration or a motivation. 
There can only be one you, warts and all. When you look at other people through a lens of compassion and understanding rather than judgment and jealousy, you are better able to see them for what they are—human beings. They are beautifully imperfect human beings going through the same universal challenges that we all go through.   

Focus on your progress rather than perfection
Especially when you focus on ”getting everything right” it can lead to ‘down days’ when things are not working out as planned. We all want success and perfection and when that doesn’t happen we feel worthless, which is also a cause of self-loathing. Remember everyone's journey is different and that's what makes it a learning curve, Instead of berating yourself for messing up and stumbling backward, give yourself a pat on the back for trying, making progress, and coming as far as you have.

Find A Way To Love Yourself
The key to loving yourself is accepting yourself as you are. Of course, this does not mean not attempting to improve yourself. It does mean accepting yourself for who you are, accepting responsibility for the mistake you’ve made, and moving on. It is important not to stop from any one given mistake, but instead to keep going. “Until you stop breathing, there’s more right with you than wrong with you.”
As someone who sometimes tends to zoom in on all my perceived flaws, it helps to remember that there are lots of things I like about myself too—like the fact that I’m alive and breathing and able to pave new paths whenever I choose.

Don’t believe everything your mind tells you..
You are the one that controls your mind and thoughts are just thoughts, but at the same time, they can be very powerful. Whenever you have negative thoughts about yourself, try to sum up all the good things you have done in life, all your achievements and all the journeys you have survived. Positive thinking goes a long way! I find that it is most difficult to accept love and understanding from others when I’m in a state of anger, shame, anxiety, or depression. But adopting the above truth really shifted my perspective and made me realize that love is actually the greatest gift I can receive during such times.

You can’t hate your way into loving yourself.
Telling yourself what a failure you are won’t make you any more successful. Telling yourself you’re not living up to your full potential won’t help you reach a higher potential. Telling yourself you’re worthless and unlovable won’t make you feel any more worthy or lovable.
I know it sounds almost annoyingly simple, but the only way to achieve self-love is to love yourself—regardless of who you are and where you stand and even if you know you want to change.
You are enough just as you are. And self-love will be a little bit easier every time you remind yourself of that.


Hey, It's Okay...

Most of the time we're never told it's okay, where the 'it's okay' has more meaning. It's okay to be this or that, or like this or that... The moral compass, the one that’s a useful little part of your mind that keeps you on the right track. Then there's the nasty one, the one that makes you feel guilty for no reason or makes you feel inferior even when you’re trying really hard. So I thought I’d make a list of the things that it’s okay to do, think, and feel -  I hope that if you sometimes struggle you’ll take notice and ease up on yourself, because we are all doing the best we can.

You make mistakes: Everyone, I repeat everyone, makes mistakes. It’s part of being human, the ability to get things wrong. Mistakes a great chance to learn more and to reassess what you want. 

You need to rest: We can’t be productive all the time. Rest is important and allows us to function better when we are working. If you need to nap, nap. If you want to read, read. Take the time to look after yourself and you’ll be far more productive when you come back to it.

To want to be alone: Wanting space doesn’t mean you don’t like or the love the people you’re around. A lot of people recharge when they’re alone, and it can be a really healthy thing to do. 

To be irritable: We all go through different moods and people can’t be happy 24/7. I’ve been grouchy this week but I’m trying to recognise that it’s me and give myself time and space away from triggers. Don’t beat yourself up if you’re irritable, just take a deep breath and try to find an activity that will make you happy.

To not have life figured out yet: I don’t. I have vague plans and certain things that I adore but the future is a great big hazy mess. But you know what, I’m enjoying living day to day and learning more. I don’t have to have my whole life figured out to make plans for the next step. It will all work out in the end. Life is one big journey and i have time to do all the things i want to do and so much more to learn.

To be you: You are you, nobody else. Embrace that fully. Find out what makes you happy, and do it. You can't be anyone else, but that's okay because you get to be this wonderful unique individual. Love yourself, accept yourself, and live will be so much easier and more rewarding. You are a beautiful individual, remember that!