Catfish: The TV Show - My Ultimate Not So Guilty Pleasure

I watch a quite abit of television if i'm not blogging or scrolling through tumblr and it's either a comedy, drama or a reality tv series. But lets cut to the chase where i talk about the MTV show, Catfish because this show is just awesome and Nev (pronouced as NEEV) & Max are the cutest co hosts. After watching one episode, you are hooked (well at least thats how it happened for me) It's the perfect guilty pleasure show which i'd gladly talk about, so i guess it's not a guilty pleasure on my part.

Cat·fish [kat-fish] noun — a person who pretends to be someone they’re not,
using social media to create a false identity (using false information & pictures), particularly to pursue deceitful online romances

When i first saw Catfish: The TV Show sometime in 2013, i remember thinking 'are people that stupid to fall for something like that' and i'm the most gullible person ever and i freaked out how good the show is (the movie is pretty fab too) because giving it away would ruin the entire point of the movie. HOWEVER, it’s nearly impossible to not ruin it without telling you about the consequent TV show that came out of the movie.

Based on the documentary film of the same name, the show, hosted by Nev Schulman and Max Joseph, look to expose “catfishes,” or people who make fake online dating/social media profiles and lure someone into a virtual relationship based on lies. Nev Schulman, who was the creator and subject of the movie. He basically helps people who have been in an online relationship with someone, but the trick is that they’ve never met in real life. And as things get serious between the internet daters, questions may start to arise like – why the hell haven’t we seen each other IRL yet what are you hiding from me etc. 

Basically Nev and Max go and investigate the online beau to see whether they're real or not & 99% of the time, they’re not who they say they are. The show has covered many interesting relationships (LGBTQ, parents, young veterans, etc) and i'm not gonna lie and say most of the time you don't feel sorry for the catfish or the person getting catfished because you honestly do. 

Catfish are currently on their 5th season & it's still the most awesome show on TV but also how are people still being catfished because A) Google and B) We are the generation that stalks literally everyone on social media… ESPECIALLY people we’re romantically interested in. As much as you love watching it all unfold on tv, you also want them to be happy & content with themselves.

Many still want to scoff at the idea of online friendships/relationships, but as Catfish goes to show, they can have very real impact on people and are just as valid as friendships and relationships that form “irl.” Catfish is show you should be watching if you aren't already, above all, Catfish is about love. About finding that one person that makes sense of everything or just helps your world seem a smidge less rubbish. because Catfish ain’t nothing without Max & Nev. Big love to these dorks. And whats not to love about Nev and Max in investigation mode (while being all-round adorable)


10 Important Things Depression & Anxiety Has Taught Me

Having depression and anxiety is emotionally draining, everyday is a battle no matter how big or small. Like many anxiety/depression sufferers I have good mental health days and bad mental health days. Living with both depression & anxiety is a struggle even if you have one or the other, it's difficult and I'm not gonna sugarcoat it and says it's not. 

Mental Health is an ongoing battle and we can beat this stigma. It doesn't define us, It SHOULDN'T define us. It can be extremely difficult to even accept that you're dealing with a mental illness, let alone try to conquer it. Each day is a new day and you're getting stronger. The journey will be a long one but it's worth all those trials and tribulations, i know it.

1) Putting yourself first is OKAY, your mental health is your first priority. Everything comes second.
2) You Are Not Alone
3) YOU are in control, no matter how hard it gets, or how hopeless it may seem, no one, not even this illness, can take that away from you.
4) Don't give up on yourself, It’s a hard lesson, but it’s worth it. Depression can make self-love extremely difficult. You become hard on yourself for not being able to improve and eventually give up on yourself. Remember you are strong, beautiful, important, worthy, and most importantly you are enough
5) It’s okay to fall out of love with yourself. There will be times where you hate yourself and that’s okay because the process of loving yourself again is a tough but a beautiful one.
6) You are not defined by your mental health, only YOU define you!
7) it's okay to cry, cry and cry until you can't cry anymore, then go & hug a pet
8) You are stronger than you think. You are a warrior
9) Every person is fighting their own battle. Each and every one of us is struggling with something. We are all striving to overcome our struggles and not let them control our lives.
10) you are worth recovery and you are worthy of self love & acceptance

Please remember you are not alone and if you need someone to talk to, don't hesitate to contact me anytime.

Current Faves #2

I kinda abandoned my little current faves segment for awhile, so i think it's time i picked it back up. I've been loving quite a few things some old & new, I wanted to talk about some random favourites of mine at the moment and why I've been loving them.

The Jude and Zero Story -  I've been obsessed with this 'Hit The Floor' couple so much lately, so much so I've spent hours scrolling through the 'zude' tag on tumblr or just watching their story religiously. The story is beautifully written and acted by the always handsome Brent Antonello & Adam Senn. Jude & Zero are just honestly so adorable and the chemistry is wow.

My Unicorn Huggle Buddie - obviously I'm a unicorn enthusiast as said in my little blog bio, and lately I've been loving my little unicorn cuddle buddy whom I've christened Betsy. The perfect comfort blanket

ARI by Ariana Grande - This one has definitely made it's way into my favourite once again, i can't enough. This perfume is honestly my favourite things to wear because this smells like heaven in a bottle and the bottle is the cutest thing ever! You can purchase this gorgeous fragrance at your nearby fragrance shop: Boots or Superdrug

DNCE - for those who haven't heard of DNCE, it's a band fronted by the always handsome Joe Jonas. What's not to love about this band, Joe sings like an angel and the songs are super catchy (I'm always singing Cake By The Ocean)

A Place To Call Home - This is one period drama I've gotten hooked on, its slightly modernised but with the time period. And includes loads of handsome men and beautiful women. It's set in 1950's Australia in a fictional town, Inverness.

Spotify - I'm always listening to music whilst doing something whether its my blog or relaxing. Spotify is everyone's favourite right? You can check out what I've been listening to here

So thats what i've been loving lately, what are your current favourites. Also i'd like offer you guys a chance to guest post on 'The BeautifulxImperfections Journal' so feel free to shoot me a message either on twitter or email.

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15 ways to add more positivity to your life

I know it can be hard to be positive when life just keeps giving you all these hurdles... I think most of us need a little extra dose of positivity in our lives – is there really such thing as too much? I know I’ve been feeling a bit low for a good few months now. Partly because of the weather, just being an adult, losing my beloved pug and also partly because of general poor mental health.

1. Stop comparing your life/body/blog/job/anything with other people. If you find yourself doing this, why not replace it with something positive.
2. Pay yourself a compliment everyday
3. In the wise words of Roald Dahl – “If you have good thoughts, they will shine out of you like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.” You are what you think!
4. Keep a gratitude journal.
5. Or, just a list of things on your phone that make you happy. (this is something I've done recent and it helps me, alot)
6. Just enjoy the little things, not everything in life needs to be a big milestone to make you happy
7. Focus on the good, always. There is always a silver lining even if it's not apparent
8. Appreciate as much as you can. Anything and everything can be appreciated.
9. Have an open mind.
10. Watch a happy film or listen to a happy playlist
11. Have a more zen like attitude. Try not to see things as happening to you but rather happening for you. Everything can be a lesson.
12. Avoid over analysing.
13. Smile more.
14. Treat people how you wish to be treated.
15. Be kind. Be loving. Be positive and believe in yourself.

I hope these help you in some kind of way and remember animals exist so there's that.

What Is Perfection?

Perfection is something everyone strives for but what is it? But we're losing out on looking at the imperfections, the things that makes us our unique selves. It's part of our human nature to want perfection, like myself I'm always looking at something or someone else thinking 'wow they look perfect' or 'they have the perfect life' and I'm not saying i want to be somebody else because i wouldn't be me - i would be someone elses copy and that's not loving or embracing what makes me who i am as a person.

We hold ourselves to this impossible standard: perfection. It's easy to get swept up by the fear that we just aren't enough. We think we aren't smart enough, pretty enough, successful enough, thin enough, tall enough for example we go to some extreme lengths in attempt to achieve the 'perfect' look, like we're compelled to exercise, diet, wax, pluck and tuck. Of course there is nothing wrong with taking pride in our appearance but are we really giving into the pressures of being perfect? We're all striving for this strange idea of perfection in  hope that maybe if we have the perfect body, the perfect attitude or the perfect life all together, then maybe we will feel better about ourselves. Maybe we will be happier, or more confident. Maybe we will feel like we are good enough!

How do we balance those external expectations with the reality of our humanity? It's important to be open to our unique version of outer beauty and own who we are as individuals, embracing our unique style flaws and all. I'm sure you can think of someone who isn't classically beautiful, but they seem so comfortable in their own skin, it makes them very appealing. 

Making yourself  happy, making yourself beautiful and making yourself the confident person you deserve to be is what is important. Being the best possible version of yourself is what is good enough and more valued - Being happy and feeling good about yourself isn’t about being perfect. It's about embracing every small, imperfect thing about yourself, all the things that make you YOU is what is perfect. We are pretty enough, good enough, valued enough - We as humans are enough! 

Overall, in my eyes perfection is embracing everything that makes you beautiful, flawed and unique. At the end of the day progress over rules perfection.

What is your view on perfection?

What I Do When I'm Having A Bad Day

These last few days haven't been the easiest, i'm still trying make sense of things and come to grips of losing my beloved pooch Benson. It's good to have a good ol cry here and there. You know what it's weird how you can go from feeling happy and then woosh all you emotions are all over the place.

Watch YouTube Videoswatching katy bellotte's videos always puts a smile on my face after a bad day and she's pretty fab too or i'll even watch cute videos of animals and fictional couples (well i'm always fangirling over something)

Browse Through Tumblrjust going through the tags of everything from quotes to my favourite fictional pairings tends to cheer me up

Cuddles With The Cat this is slowly happening, since it doesn't feel just the same like it did with having lovely cuddle with my fur baby but hey it comforts me just the same.

Have A Bathi love a good bath, it warms & comforts me

Watch A Disney Movie or A Chick Flickanything with a good sountrack or a cute love story is a win for me

Pin A Bunch On Motivational Quotesi swear most of my pins are quotes, what can i say i love quotes

Listen To An Upbeat Playlisti have a playlist filled with the songs i quite like listening to so this helps with cheering me up The BeautifulxImperfections Playlist

Have A Good Ol Cup Of Teasomething to cuddle my soul with it's warmth 

Colour In My Colouring Destress Bookcolouring is therapeutic for me as i'm it is for others too.

What do you guys do to pick yourself up?

Saying Goodbye To My Fur Baby

On 1st March 2016, doggy heaven called for my baby, how do you grieve for a beloved pet? Is there some kind of rulebook or do you just let your feelings pour out and hope you feel better afterwards... If you follow me on twitter and instagram you will know i had to say goodbye to my partner in crime, my best friend, my little angel.. It's weird how an animal can mean so much in such a short space of time, like they become such a big part of your life and all the sudden when they go nothing makes sense.

I miss him so much, he was perfect in every way, i miss his beautiful face, his soft ears, his cute tail, all the little noises he made when he was excited or happy just the things he did including how looked at me like i was the best thing that happened to him. Benson definitely taught me a thing or two such as facing some of my biggest fears and let myself be happy. 

I had the joy of being his mummy for just exactly 2 years (or maybe 2 & 1/2) We adopted this little guy on the 28th February 2014 and from then on life with him by my side was amazing. He helped me in more ways than one, he was my supporter, my ultimate best friend, he was with me through my ups and my downs and got me through them. 

He has definitely left his paw mark on our hearts, we'll love him always and he'll never be forgotten.
Goodbye to my little prince, you were always making me smile with your little quirks and when i would come home from college you would run to the door to greet me, you were my little cuddle buddy, my best friend and the most sweetest little boy i had the joy of looking after. 

i am proud to have been your mummy, goodbye little one, sleep well. Love you always.

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8 Life Lessons From Disney

I love getting some lessons from tv shows & movies - Whatever the subject, Disney do the best pep talks! But we already knew that anyway. Life is better with the magic from Disney! When you need a bit of motivation or a touch of inspiration, just whack on a good ol' Disney movie and the quotes will come flooding out to you along with a sing song.

 “Do not be fooled by its commonplace appearance. Like so many other things, it is not what’s on the outside, but inside that counts.” - Merchant, Aladdin
It’s the old saying, ‘don’t judge a book by its cover.’ It’s so simple - don’t judge on appearances alone. True beauty is found within. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Things aren’t always as they may first seem. Walk a mile in someone else’s shoes before placing judgement or try new things before dismissing them first.

“Fairytales can come true. You gotta make them happen, it all depends on you.” - Tiana, The Princess and the Frog
Patience is key and to quote Cinderella: "even miracles take a little time". If you truly desire something, you have to be willing to put in the hard work and possess the determination to go and get it. Miracles don’t come for free!

“The seaweed is always greener in somebody elses lake.” - Sebastian, The Little Mermaid
Don’t compare yourself to others. Be happy and content with what you already have instead of wishing for things that you don’t. Count your blessings. Sometimes the people that seem to have it all, really have nothing.

“The flower that blooms in adversity is the most rare and beautiful of all.” - The Emperor, Mulan
Our struggles in life are what shape us to be the people we are today. They make us stronger and wiser in the long run. Stay optimistic and remember that nothing is permanent.

 “I’m bad and that’s good. I will never be good and that’s not bad. There’s no one I’d rather be than me.“ - Ralph, Wreck-It Ralph
It’s your flaws that make you who you are. Remember we are all human and no one is perfect. In fact, we are all perfectly imperfect! The important thing is to be true to yourself. You are the only ‘you’ there is! And that’s pretty cool. Don’t pretend to be something your not – let your true colours shine!

 “When life gets you down, you know what you gotta do? Just keep swimming.” – Dory, Finding Nemo
Life can be tough and when it gets you down just think of the cute blue fishy named Dory. Keep looking forward, no matter how bad things may seem. A sprinkling of determination can go a long way and persistence will make you strong. Don’t give up – you’ll get through it!

“The past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it or learn from it.” - Rafiki, The Lion King
Don’t get hung up on things that have happened in the past. Try not to dwell on circumstances you can’t change or have no control over and instead focus on the things that you can. Learn from previous mistakes or experiences and reflect on the lessons it taught you instead. Keep moving forward and don’t let the past hold you back.

“I was so upset, I forgot to be happy.” - Eeyore, Winnie the Pooh
We shouldn’t let our minds dwell on things that anger us or make us sad, otherwise we’ll miss the things that would have made us happy instead! Focus on the positives in life, not the negatives! Every cloud has a silver lining – we just have to find it!

What lessons did you learn from Disney?

Pins I'm Loving: Quotes Edition

i love doing these kinds of posts where i share the pins I'm loving or things I've been loving in general, which sometimes contain quotes. So i thought why not do a quotes edition because everyone loves quotes don't they? So here are the quotes i love/ been loving.

what are your favourite quotes to pin?

Silencing My Inner Critic

We all have a inner critic. A voice inside your head that judges and belittles you, the one that tells you're not good enough or can't do something. The voice that keeps reminding you of your mistakes and compares your life to others. That voice is your biggest obstacle.
It's that voice that says what you should or can't do. That voice full of self-doubt, fear, insecurities and feelings of unworthiness. Since I'm tired of listening to that voice - and I'm sure you are as well - I'm sharing five tips to help you silence your inner critic and transform it into your inner cheerleader, we can all be awesome when we ignore that self doubt - 
It doesn't mean there's not a day where i don't give into that self doubt because it's only natural to breakdown and give in, we're human after all. 

 Be your own cheerleader 
Replace your negative thoughts with something positive. Say to your inner critic "shut up, I can do this, I am enough". Use that inner critic as a motivation to prove it wrong. Have a mantra to say to yourself when you start questioning yourself. If you say something enough times, eventually you will start to believe it. Visualise success and try your best to believe you're going to do great. It's hard but it definitely helps.

 Practice self-kindness/love
It's a lot easier to identify your flaws than the things you're great at. But imagine if someone said to you in person some of the things that you think about yourself: "you're worthless, you can't do it or you will never make it". How would you feel? And how would you feel if someone said to your mother, daughter or sister? Realise when you're feeling critical and replace it for something kinder.

 Acknowledge your thoughts
Be aware of your negative self-talk and figure out what are you afraid of. Is it there a valid reason or you're just a big over thinker? (like me) What's the worst that could happen? Put a name to your fears and you will maybe realise they're not as big of a deal as they seemed in your head. You are not your thoughts, acknowledge but don't be led by them. Just because you think something, doesn't mean it's true. Don't over think it.

Don't dwell on your mistakes
We all make mistakes. I've made a lot of them and while I wish I had done some things differently, I have to admit that the mistakes i made helped me grow, learn and become the person I am today - someone stronger. Be more forgiving towards yourself.

You're a work in progress
Don't beat yourself up over your flaws, know your strengths. And if you're not in the stage you want to be, work for it. Set attainable, smalls goals and work to achieve them. With patience and dedication, you will get there. Work on yourself with love and kindness. :)
Just know that you are valued and loved, your journey matters - you matter, we all matter.

So that's it for this post, i hope they help you as they're helping me with what ever struggles i may be dealing with. Just remember, it's not the end of the world - you will get to where you wanna be in time.
"the reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with everyone elses highlight reel"

Things I've Learnt So Far In My Adult Life

I've always thought by the time you get to your twenties, you'd have it all figured out. Being an adult isn't all sunshine and rainbows, when i was younger i use to think that being an adult was the greatest thing ever (maybe not as much as having a pet unicorn or being a princess) you could do whatever you wanted, like nothing could stop you. Like i come across a tweet and think 'thats exactly how i feel!' Maybe this post could be something you should remember when your in your twenties - i've only been on this planet for 20 years and i still don't know what i'm doing or what i want but i know one thing: i want to be happy and content with myself.

Nothing Is Easy:
It's hard when you feel like you're not getting anywhere in life, but always remember that nothing is easy. Those who are successful have had to work really hard to get where they are, and you didn't see the backstage struggle of sweat and tears to get them to where they are now. Always remember to work hard and anything is possible. Don't just give up because something isn't happening right now, that doesn't mean that it won't ever happen. Give it time.

To Stop Comparing Yourself:
 I compare myself a lot with other bloggers and people in general. I'll be like 'why isn't my blog doing as well' 'why haven't I got as many followers?' 'why aren't i doing as well as them' etc... and it's such a horrible thing to do. Comparing yourself definitely kills your joy, and you'll always see someone else who seems to be doing better. I try to not worry too much anymore on anyone else and try to just focus on myself and my stuff. I want to be happy so I'm deciding to stop worrying so much about my blog or anything i can't change. To stop worrying about how many followers I've got, I'm fed up of belittling myself, so it's time to stop comparing for once because it's doing more harm than good. It's not easy, but the sooner you stop, the happier you'll be. It's human nature to sometimes compare yourself (everyone does it), but remember you are you, and you don't need to be someone else. You are good enough and worth every happiness,  the perfect person who you probably comparing yourself to, is probably comparing themselves to someone else too. Lets face it, everyone is facing a battle of their own, everyone is at different stages 

 Start Being Kinder To Yourself:
Growing up, I was pretty horrible to myself. I'd look in the mirror with disgust, and if I did something wrong, I'd be like 'why am I so stupid ?' 'why can't i do anything right?' After years, of being my own worst enemy and belittling myself, I've decided to actually start being nice to myself, to value myself . To stop beating myself up when I do something wrong. To stop worrying that my thighs touch (I'm one step closer to being a mermaid ) and to just enjoy life. I am me, I am my own beautiful self.  I'm not a model, but that's okay. I'm happy and healthy and that's all that matters. I want my twenties to be spent being happy and confident. At the end of the day i'm human, i'm not perfect but i can be the best version of myself, someone who loves herself for who she is and be happy no matter where life takes me, i'm worth every happiness and love.

 No One Has Their Life Together:
Social media makes it seem like everyone has their life together. You see Facebook posts, Instagram photos and tweets that either make roll your eyes or feel envious (or at least thats what i'm like). I don't know about you, but I don't think I've spoken to a twenty something who has everything sorted out. We're all still figuring out all kinds of things Even people who look from the likes of Instagram that everything is all hunky dory but its in fact not. So next time when you see someone getting a new job/buying a house/getting engaged or whatever.... remember that not all is what it usually seems. We all have bad days, we all have days where we just want to eat junk food all day in our pj's and not communicate with the outside world. Don't sweat it. And remember my one of favourite quotes 'don't compare your behind the scenes with someone else's highlight reel.'

The Little Things Are Just As Important As The Big Things:
Life unfortunately is not like a rom com with the big life events and romantic gestures. It's always a crap version of it. So sometimes you have to appreciate the little things in life, and realise that they are the things that are most important. When someone compliments you, when you watch a cute rom com, the smell of your favourite perfume, fresh flowers etc ... you soon realise that the little things are what make life great, they make it more bareable. Sometimes you have to stop thinking that only the big things matter, and when you add up all the little things that make you happy in your life, you'll feel a lot more fulfilled. Be happy with the little things in your life because to be honest, they are best things

You Can Be Selfish:
Your twenties are the years when you can be a little selfish and do stuff for you. Before you have kids, responsibilities, etc... it's a great time to just make time for you. Take one day or two and then to just have some me time. Take care of  yourself, physically and mentally. Don't feel guilt for eating badly, or watching Netflix all day. Treat yourself to a massage or a shopping spree. Being in your twenties is weird. You're confused, you're not sure what to do with life. You still feel like a teenager but you know you're not. Some people may have never felt like this before, but I bet a majority of you have. Don't stress, or freak out. Remember that growing older is a privilege that not everyone gets. The older you get, the wiser you become.

No One's Life Plan Is Going As Planned:
Does anyone really have a life plan? Life has a funny way of working out, and no seems to be on the track they thought they would be in their head. I'm not gonna lie and say i didn't have a 'life plan' at 16 - I try to now just always think that 'things will happen when they happen.' Everything happens for a reason, and no one is ticking off their list. Let things be, and don't worry too much about the goal or whatever.

What have you learnt so far in your adult life?

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