No Matter What. Be Yourself.

It's easy to say to someone to just be themselves but it's not that simple, is it? There are so many pressures that we have to face in the world today - and it can be a really scary and daunting place to be! Whether it be someones physical appearance or their personality, the media paints an unrealistic picture of what it takes to be popular or good looking or desirable. Personally, growing up i felt like i didn't fitted in anywhere - just sitting on the sidelines (having anxiety doesn't exactly help either)  Despite these pressures its always important to remember to be who you are because this can and will help you to be happier and just be generally a more accepting open-minded person. So i wanted to do a motivational post with a few tips how to be yourself, no matter what! These tips have helped me on a journey of self acceptance,I'm still learning to self accept myself and some days are harder than others and i hope these help you too.

 Understand 'who am I?!' : 
Take time to contemplate who you actually are and what sort of person you come across as. Think about your likes and dislikes and all of your little quirks and celebrate EVERYTHING - this is you! If you have a bubbly and outgoing personality or if you're a shy and reserved person - enjoy and accept it! This is what makes you who you are and although it can be difficult, learning to accept this can actually be quite refreshing! 

Turn your 'flaws' into quirks: 
I know, flaws aren't fun and at times they can be soul destroying! But in order to learn to self accept you need to understand how to turn these flaws into quirks. Quirks can be both physical and emotional, they are the unique parts of your personality and they make up the foundations of who you are. Be honest with yourself and others and learn to let these quirks shine through in your personality, because ultimately, if you learn to love these 'flaws' others will too

Forget about the rest:
This was (and still is) the tricky part for me. But this is an important step when it comes to self acceptance. You need to stop getting caught up in other people's perceptions and stop worrying about what others think of you. The best piece of advice I've ever been given is that yes, there will always be people who judge others (its unavoidable) but if they have a problem with the way you act or look that's their own problem - if they're going to live their lives judging others they will be miserable and to be honest their own personality will end up being quite negative. Don't live your life wearing a mask because you're scared of others thoughts - celebrate yourself and prove to them that everything that makes you you is worth loving. 

Forgive and forget the past: 
It's sometimes difficult to remember that your personality and who you are is not defined by a specific period of your life (i still struggle with this) - you are growing and your personality and wisdom grows with every year and every situation you encounter. Allow yourself to forgive and forget moments of your life you aren't so proud of, mistakes are important and we learn to grow from them - we learn what we can and can't do and what we are capable of. Remembering that you are improving daily will help you to be a happier and more easygoing person and will honestly help you to be a emotionally healthier over all! 

 And... relax:
Relaxing and learning to laugh is important if you want to learn to self accept. Relaxing means not worrying about all the bad things that can happen in a social situation because to be honest 99% of the things we worry about don't actually happen - it's important to not focus on the negative as this won't allow you to show your true personality in these social situations. And yes, okay sometimes we do something silly like trip over or get food stuck in our teeth (we are all human after all!) and when this happens it's important to learn to laugh! We all makes these mistakes and no one is perfect after all! 

Stop comparing yourself to others: 
If you live your life wanting to be someone else, you're not living a healthy & happy life and truth is, you'll never truly be happy! Shh.. its a secret but people only show you want they want you to see - the truth is, behind what they are presenting to you there is not a perfect world. Everyone has their own problems and NO ONE is always perfect! Don't strive to be someone else - instead value and embrace your uniqueness. Be You

I hope you enjoyed this post & helped you to be more accepting of yourself! Please share your own tips in the comments I would love to know your tips - I'm still learning to self accept and I would love to hear a few extra tips that you have used in the past or the ones you've been living by! I hope this post has inspired some of you to go out and celebrate those little things that make you you! 

1 comment

  1. Absolutely love this post! These are all so helpful. Learning to accept your self and love yourself for who you are is so difficult and something I'm always working on.

    - Courtney