Hey It's Okay - Stop Being So Hard On Yourself ♡

 
I've always been my worst critic. I criticise everything about myself including the little things even when being complimented i never know how to react. I've decided I should start being kinder to myself and you should be nicer to yourself too.
Having studied media and  a little sociology at college I've lost count of how many seen and wrritten about the media's influence on body image and how we should look. It's true though. Think about the gossip magazines, and the side bar of shame, how many articles are about celebrities and their looks? You can't win and it messes with our minds. I feel that people in society including media don't realise the impact words and bullying have on young people, and this leads to mental health diagnosis and unfortunatly suicide. people think about the way they look because of how it is in the media, they think they haven't got the perfect body but there is no such thing as perfect

 I have been more accepting of myself, I try to not give myself such a hard time. I praise myself, and sometimes I'll even give myself a pat on the back. I remind myself I am a human, I make mistakes and no one is perfect. It's hard now we are obsessed with social media.We read blogs, and watch vlogs and other youtube videos and like instagram pictures, wondering why we don't look like that or have a life like that. The truth is, that no one is perfect or has a perfect life. Everyone filters their Instagram pictures including videos, and they don't show the messy bedrooms, or the days where we sit on the sofa with spots and the greasy hair. 
Don't compare your behind the scenes with someone else's highlight reel.

In your quiet moments, what do you think about? How far you’ve come, or how far you have to go? Your strengths, or your weaknesses? The best that might happen, or the worst that might happen..:

When you look in the mirror instead of thinking about the things you don't like, think about the things you do like and focus on them. Don't dwell on mistakes, think of stuff that makes you smile with pride, and don't be afraid of risks and failures. We only live once and wouldn't you of rather known what happened instead of the 'what if?'

 I have made a promise to be nicer to myself. I'll accept compliments, try to not complain about the things I don't like, and be proud of my achievements. I'll stop comparing myself to people and concentrate on being me, and no one else. Don't listen to anyone else, especially bullies. Don't let anyone tell you what/who to be.. Having turned a new chapter in my life, I have made a vow to stop being so hard on myself and be proud of my acheivements and more. and I want you to take that vow too. Embrace your imperfections and quirks, embrace everything! 


It's Okay List
#1 It really doesn't matter that your thighs touch together when your feet are together or even when they're apart. Anyways if your thighs touch, you're a step closer to being a mermaid so who's the real winner here? 
#2 It's totally normal to not have a flat tummy
#3 It's understandable when you just want a weekend to sleep and eat rather than blog. The world won't stop spinning. 
#4 Don't worry about that little splurge.. We all deserve a treat now and then. 
#5 Everyone's make up goes cakey from time to time
#6 It's fine to love your dog more than most people. 
#7 So what if you don't have several 0's after your blog/YouTube subscriber number. . 
#8 Yes it's fine to fancy the hottie in the band or tv series. It's cool they're over 20. 
#9 to have dreams, don't let people say you can't dream, whether that's believing in unicorns eveyone believes in unicorns right? Unicorns are pretty. Just because you get older doesn't mean you should stop dreaming.
#10 Be the person, you'd like to meet and be friends with  
#11 Conchita Wurst from The Eurovision Song Contest, has shown us that we are all badass and unstoppable 
#12 Everyone gets cellulite. Even the pretty, skinny people 
#13 Take that compliment. Don't think you'll look like Billy Big Balls if you say 'thank you.'  
#14 Stop being your own worst enemy, nobody is perfect, and that's what makes us unique. 
#15 It's fine that you don't understand the jargon at college or work, it doesn't mean you're dumb. 
#16 Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, focus on your strengths not weaknesses. Some people are strategic, some people are creative etc. 
#17 Calling someone else fat, won't make you a size smaller
#18 Try to be your own best friend, not your enemy. How will you expect anyone to believe in you, when you don't even believe in yourself? 
#19 to feel overhelmed with life, we all have those bad days where we feel helpless, worried, stressed, upset, confused about absolutely anything, just remember that you are only human 
#20 to have a break point, we aren't immune to pain or heartbreak 


“Love yourself, accept yourself, forgive yourself and be good to yourself, because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things.” ~Leo F. Buscaglia

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